A Promise

Written by on October 17, 2017 in Book 1: Commentary with 0 Comments

Creating this podcast, I find myself thinking more about the different ways covert abuse can manifest and how often we can’t see its overall presence, because we’re too busy reeling from a specific attack and trying to regain our balance.

When a person attacks you with insults and threats and then acts as if you’re crazy for holding them accountable, that’s covert abuse in the form of gaslighting.

When a person makes fun of or brushes off the pain and anger you feel, that’s covert abuse in the form of trivializing.

When a person demonizes you for doing the right thing, that’s covert abuse redefining reality.

When a person accuses you of engaging in their own behavior, that’s covert abuse in the form of projecting.

When a person insists you take the higher road without owning any of their abusive behavior,  that’s covert abuse  attempting to get you to shut up and get in line.

You are not losing your mind or off for demanding accountability.

You are not  a whiny baby or petty for expressing what you feel.

You are not bad for wanting to address and take responsibility for the very real issues in our world or standing for oppressed people or caring about the environment or thinking about future generations.

You are not the shadow projected by the person who cannot face his or her own pitfalls.

You are not a sore loser for refusing to accept what is wrong.

Somewhere along the line caring about and respecting one another and the world we live in became twisted into the despised “politically correct”.

Do not apologize for who you are or what you believe. There is no shame in the love you hold for humankind, for celebrating diversity, for caring and compassion, for demanding equity and insisting on being good stewards and loving children of the earth. There is nothing insane about not wanting to commit global suicide.

Somewhere along the line caring about and respecting one another and the world we live in became twisted into the despised “politically correct”.

It’s not just correct. It’s right and just.

Do not use my own words of love and unity to gag me silent or bind my feet and hands immobile. I will speak out. I will stand on my beliefs and I will reach out to those who hurt.

I will not abandon my dream when it needs me the most. And I will not abandon you.

Do not ask me to submit to tyranny in any form, even… or maybe especially, when it waves the flag I love.

Do not back your bigotry with the prejudices of my forefathers and foremothers. As their descendant I will see further and reach higher than they could from where they stood, as I fully expect my own children to beyond me.

Because dreams don’t come true with the flick of a wand or easily spoken rhetoric.  They unfold through each person’s open heart, extended hands and principled stand.

I will not abandon the dream of equity, justice and compassion, when it needs me the most.

I will not abandon us. This is my promise.

~ demian


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About the Author

About the Author: Greetings, fellow dreamer, and welcome! I’m Demian Yumei, author, singer/songwriter and artist activist. Some of my creative projects are a CD of healing music, “For the Sake of Love” and a children’s book on the interconnectedness of life, “Little Yellow Pear Tomatoes” published by Illumination Arts. Currently, I’m in the process of creating podcasts for my book series on covert abuse. My commitment is to the creative process especially as it relates to the healing journey. Whether I’m singing at a vigil for asylum seekers, memorial for political activists or sitting around a table sharing tea and conversation with friends who just want to talk heart to heart, I am always deeply moved by the human spirit to love and live with authentic beauty. Thank you for being here, for reading my posts and/or listening to my podcast. There’s much to share, much to create and the journey has just begun! Meet you on the path. .


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