Covert Abuse

Connecting the dots…or not

Written by on September 4, 2013 in Covert Abuse with 5 Comments

Last year or so, while recovering from a bout of exhaustion I had spent most of one day napping on the couch and watching T.V. I discovered a program on Investigation Discovery, called Who The (Bleep) Did I Marry? It’s a series about people who think they know their spouses only to find they are, […]

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When Writing Becomes Difficult

Written by on July 3, 2013 in Covert Abuse with 6 Comments
When Writing Becomes Difficult

I’ll be writing more about covert abuse today. But writing about this topic is challenging. It’s depressing. I find it difficult to continue on this subject for very long. The process entails harvesting years of personal experience, looking at my family of origin and every dysfunctional relationship I have gravitated towards throughout most of my […]

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You Create Your Reality – Part 4 Illusion

Written by on July 2, 2013 in Covert Abuse with 3 Comments

  It’s all an illusion. A premise for how you create your own reality is that what you think is real isn’t. In fact, it’s an illusion. Again, in this article as in others, I’m not arguing for or against the validity of this or any particular belief. What I’m interested in is looking at how […]

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You Create Your Reality – Part 3 Focus

Written by on July 1, 2013 in Covert Abuse with 0 Comments
You Create Your Reality – Part 3 Focus

  Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Covert abuse depends on not being seen for what it is. In the hands of a covert abuser the teaching of focusing only on the positive as a way of creating becomes a tool for manipulating. Covert abusers accuse their targets of harping, bitching, […]

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Creating Your Reality Part 2 – Impact

Written by on April 5, 2013 in Covert Abuse with 2 Comments
Creating Your Reality Part 2 – Impact

No one can hurt you unless you believe they can. If that means not letting another person keep you down, because you’re going to take responsibility for choosing the ultimate impact of this experience in your life, then great! That’s incredibly empowering. But if it means you are responsible for not only the ultimate impact […]

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Creating Your Reality Part 1 – Use and Misuse

Written by on March 7, 2013 in Covert Abuse with 2 Comments
Creating Your Reality Part 1 – Use and Misuse

Do you believe you create your own reality? What does that mean…to create your own reality? To some it means choosing how you experience your reality, giving it its ultimate meaning, shaping it or making an impact within your reality. For others creating your reality goes beyond shaping or giving meaning or having impact. It […]

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When writing and digging are synonymous…

Written by on January 10, 2013 in Covert Abuse with 9 Comments
When writing and digging are synonymous…

Aside from the fact that I procrastinate, have to wrestle with the blank page monster (or blank wordpress text box) from time to time, and have a number of other responsibilities that compete for my time, the reason my posts are spread apart from each other in the way they are is because every post […]

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Their Image of You: When It Becomes a Strait Jacket

Written by on December 12, 2012 in Covert Abuse with 12 Comments
Their Image of You: When It Becomes a Strait Jacket

Not only do we have to contend with how we see ourselves, but how others see us. This is the image that is “other-directed”. We may have initially contributed to this image, but other people holding it can keep us imprisoned, even if we, or sometimes, especially if we desire to change. When how other […]

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