Empowerment means different things…

Written by on February 19, 2008 in The Healing Journey with 0 Comments

Empowerment means different things under different circumstances. Sometimes empowerment means saying yes to a situation. Sometimes it means saying no.

One of the things I’m learning is that empowerment is not reactionary.

To be reactionary is to say “no” to every “yes” and “yes” to every “no”. It’s finding yourself on the end of a string with the puppeteer counting on your defiance. If someone says “yes”, you have to say “no”. If someone says “no”, you have to say “yes”.

You might think this means you’re powerful. “You can’t make me do what you want me to”, but if we go through our whole lives enslaved to having to have the exact opposite stance to whatever is presented to us, then we are no more free than if we acquiesced to every request and demand.

And sometimes being empowered doesn’t mean acting as if there was nothing wrong, but acknowledging the pitfalls and shortcomings of any given situation and making the best of it. This entails addressing each situation that affords you the greatest respect or honoring of your human dignity – even if none of the choices are particularly great.

I had to make a choice between not being with people I really care about, because of convoluted dynamics existing between other individuals or to be there anyway and censure myself the entire evening. I chose to go without the company of people I liked this time rather than to not be myself. I would exercise my ability to create other opportunities for a more authentic time with my friends.

While neither were great options, and I did feel disappointment at missing this evening, I made the choice that felt the least abusive and most respectful to me as a person. That’s empowerment.

Empowerment is making choices that are respectful of who you are and what you believe in, even if the choices themselves are limited.

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About the Author

About the Author: Greetings, fellow dreamer, and welcome! I’m Demian Yumei, author, singer/songwriter and artist activist. Some of my creative projects are a CD of healing music, “For the Sake of Love” and a children’s book on the interconnectedness of life, “Little Yellow Pear Tomatoes” published by Illumination Arts. Currently, I’m in the process of creating podcasts for my book series on covert abuse. My commitment is to the creative process especially as it relates to the healing journey. Whether I’m singing at a vigil for asylum seekers, memorial for political activists or sitting around a table sharing tea and conversation with friends who just want to talk heart to heart, I am always deeply moved by the human spirit to love and live with authentic beauty. Thank you for being here, for reading my posts and/or listening to my podcast. There’s much to share, much to create and the journey has just begun! Meet you on the path. .


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