Experts

Written by on October 10, 2005 in The Healing Journey with 0 Comments

On the healing journey it’s important to get feedback and different perspectives. When we’re in pain, it’s easy to get tunnel vision, and miss the larger picture it takes detachment to see.

But we can go too far in that direction, as well, where we not only look to other people’s views, but give them greater value or sole value over our own. Instead of looking to someone, therapist or friend, to help us gain clarity so that we can find our own answers, we look to them to give us the answer or make those decisions for us.

It’s comforting and natural to look to those who have experience, either personal or through training, especially when you’re in a crisis. When you’re in pain, it’s scary. A lot of times you can feel confused, disoriented, stunned, and it’s practically life-saving to receive encouragement and the assurance that you’re going to be all right.

Well, you are going to be all right, but the bottom line is it’s your healing journey – yours. Not anybody else’s, no matter how educated, well-versed or experienced someone may appear to be.

I’m sharing my healing journey, in part, because I’ve been helped most by other women sharing theirs. We don’t have very much respect for the wisdom of women – clinical observations and controlled studies or academic research have usurped the authority of our elders and their stories. But it’s been other women, their experiences and wisdom that comes from living, and not therapy or academia that has done more for my healing than anything else.

I’m not against therapists, and in fact, some of the most eye opening, life-changing books I have ever read have been authored by them, but when you come right down to it, I have yet to find anything that has educated me more or given me greater inspiration to embrace my own healing than the incredibly courageous and vulnerable postings I have come across in various internet communities from “regular people” – both those asking for help and those offering it.

Some experts are taught by life, schooled through awareness, and tutored by the tenacity to seek answers and create meaning. They may or may not have formal training, elsewhere, but they are a rich, living, breathing resource that we ought not overlook or discount.

Keeping the Dream,
Demian,
~DreamSinger

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About the Author

About the Author: Demian Yumei, author, singer/songwriter and artist activist, uses spoken, written word and original songs in her human rights activism. "For the Sake of Love” is her collection of songs written on Demian's healing journey, and “Little Yellow Pear Tomatoes” is a children’s book she wrote for her daughter about the interconnectedness of life published by Illumination Arts and endorsed by Jane Goodall. Currently, Demian is working on recording episodes for her podcast and writing on the "Where There's Smoke Series on Covert Abuse". .

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