It Takes Strength

Written by on November 30, 2006 in The Healing Journey with 0 Comments

We have too little time to waste it in relationships that are not equal and mutually rewarding. Exchanging energy nourishes our souls.
— Sue Patton Theole in The Woman’s Book of Spirit

To Practice This Thought: Examine some of your significant relationships to see if they are energizing or enervating.

Soul Booster from Spirituality and Health

This came in my email this morning, and caught my eye.

“We have too little time…” But how often do we live as if we had all the time, as if time was a commodity that belonged to us and would never run out? I have found this to be very true about being in relationships with people that do not nourish us, but also in our relationships with our habits, our apetites and wants.

Sometimes the relationships we have with things or habits are just as destructive as the ones we have with people, where we can’t point to someone else’s disrespect for who we are, as the cause of our pain, but our own self-disrespect.

But our relationships with people should not be discounted so easily, either, as we tell ourselves we can simply rise above the negativity. We can wind up tripping over our own spiritual vanity and take a nasty spill. Especially, if we have underlying reasons and hidden agendas from unresolved past dynamics that we remain unaware of.

Spirituality and Health posted a good article, called “Creating Win-Win Relationships” by Pat Burns Claire, M.F.T. She refers to “loving watchdogs”. I appreciate that more than ever now. Good friends or authentic acquaintances, who are willing to tell you the truth and ask the hard questions so you can discover your own truth, are truly valuable.

Being in relationships that drain us usually also has a tendency to isolate us. That’s why, we need to find the strength we don’t think we have to reach out and get support.

It’s not a sign of weakness. Those who want you to not change and upset their cozy little world want you to believe that, and maybe those broken tapes in your head tell you that, as well, but reaching out for help, extending yourself to be open to another’s view that might and probably will upset your own view, is a courageous act.

It takes strength.

Demian,
~DreamSinger

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About the Author

About the Author: Demian Yumei, author, singer/songwriter and artist activist, uses spoken, written word and original songs in her human rights activism. "For the Sake of Love” is her collection of songs written on Demian's healing journey, and “Little Yellow Pear Tomatoes” is a children’s book she wrote for her daughter about the interconnectedness of life published by Illumination Arts and endorsed by Jane Goodall. Currently, Demian is working on recording episodes for her podcast and writing on the "Where There's Smoke Series on Covert Abuse". .

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