Last week got away from me…

Written by on July 24, 2007 in The Healing Journey with 0 Comments

…and yesterday I had a touch of the flu, but I’m feeling much better now. I get really busy going to work, driving to Southern York to tutor my child, and have time to spend time with my grandson and help out a friend with a health challenge.

Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever be able to find the time to actually work on a music project again or work on my books with any real consistency. Perhaps “finding” is the wrong word. Creating time is more like it, taking charge, choosing priorities.

But what if you have more priorities than time in a day? Or maybe that’s just an excuse.

Without a doubt, I am very, very busy. But there is a way. I suppose it’s about drawing boundaries, too. That’s not something I’m really good at, though I am getting better.

Right now, I must say my daughter is my biggest priority. She went to the Harry Potter event at Borders last Friday and felt very self conscious about the fact that she only saw the movies and heard some audio tapes, but never read the books. That’s because she can’t at this time.

So I feel renewed in my commitment to tutor her in the way I am, and I see she is making significant progress. This means a sacrifice of what I would ordinarily do on those days I drive to Shrewsbury. My music and writing is put aside, but when I see her pride in her accomplishments, and conversely when I see the hurt to her self esteem when she sees the gap between where she is and where she wants to be, especially in relation to her peers, I am all that much more convicted to stay the course.

When it comes to children, it’s their needs, not ours that takes first place. This does not mean caving in to their wants. That only fosters a kind of selfishness that can grow into full blown narcissism, but meeting their needs is a part of our parental responsibilities. And what is sacrificed is not our convenience when we do what we have to do to meet their needs, but our children’s welfare, when we don’t.

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About the Author

About the Author: Demian Yumei, author, singer/songwriter and artist activist, uses spoken, written word and original songs in her human rights activism. "For the Sake of Love” is her collection of songs written on Demian's healing journey, and “Little Yellow Pear Tomatoes” is a children’s book she wrote for her daughter about the interconnectedness of life published by Illumination Arts and endorsed by Jane Goodall. Currently, Demian is working on recording episodes for her podcast and writing on the "Where There's Smoke Series on Covert Abuse". .

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