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Ch 3: Facing the Dark and Staying in the Light wtss1-005

Ch 3: Facing the Dark and Staying in the Light wtss1-005

Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 24:22 — 20.7MB) | EmbedSubscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Email | RSS | More“When the cost of getting burnt by covert abuse starts to dawn on you, the question becomes how do you grieve your losses without becoming consumed by them?” Discover steps to dealing with […]

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Introduction to the Series, Covert Abuse, and Making the Journey Your Own wtss1-001

Introduction to the Series, Covert Abuse, and Making the Journey Your Own wtss1-001

Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 12:56 — 11.1MB) | EmbedSubscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Email | RSS | MoreFirst book in the Where There’s Smoke Series on Covert Abuse — “Covert Abuse and the Art of Discernment”,  is an introduction to the manipulation of covert abuse and the importance of developing […]

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Connecting the dots…or not

Written by on September 4, 2013 in KTD: The Healing Journey with 5 Comments

Last year or so, while recovering from a bout of exhaustion I had spent most of one day napping on the couch and watching T.V. I discovered a program on Investigation Discovery, called Who The (Bleep) Did I Marry? It’s a series about people who think they know their spouses only to find they are, […]

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When Writing Becomes Difficult

When Writing Becomes Difficult

Written by on July 3, 2013 in KTD: The Healing Journey with 6 Comments

I’ll be writing more about covert abuse today. But writing about this topic is challenging. It’s depressing. I find it difficult to continue on this subject for very long. The process entails harvesting years of personal experience, looking at my family of origin and every dysfunctional relationship I have gravitated towards throughout most of my […]

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You Create Your Reality – Part 4 Illusion

Written by on July 2, 2013 in KTD: The Healing Journey with 3 Comments

  It’s all an illusion. A premise for how you create your own reality is that what you think is real isn’t. In fact, it’s an illusion. Again, in this article as in others, I’m not arguing for or against the validity of this or any particular belief. What I’m interested in is looking at how […]

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You Create Your Reality – Part 3 Focus

You Create Your Reality – Part 3 Focus

Written by on July 1, 2013 in KTD: The Healing Journey with 0 Comments

  Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Covert abuse depends on not being seen for what it is. In the hands of a covert abuser the teaching of focusing only on the positive as a way of creating becomes a tool for manipulating. Covert abusers accuse their targets of harping, bitching, […]

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Self-Image of “Goodness” and Covert Abuse

Self-Image of “Goodness” and Covert Abuse

Written by on November 20, 2012 in KTD: The Healing Journey with 13 Comments

I’m not afraid of mean girls or mean people, per se. It’s the “good” ones who make me nervous. Not genuinely kind and beautifully imperfect people, but those caught in their expectation of what it means to be “good”. I’m not talking about seeing yourself as a good person — most people are — but […]

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How to Discern Covert Abuse Without Becoming Paranoid

How to Discern Covert Abuse Without Becoming Paranoid

Written by on October 15, 2012 in KTD: The Healing Journey with 7 Comments

Before I write any more articles in the “Feigning Series” or analyze any more types of manipulation and covert abuse, I would like to address the question of how to protect our idealism, our positive outlook on life in a world where covert abuse exists. It’s necessary to be able to discern covert abuse, to […]

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