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Self-Trivializing

Self-Trivializing

Written by on June 9, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 11 Comments

Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? When we experience covert abuse, the very subtlety of it can make us feel embarrassed or even apologetic to bring it up. We — and others — may make us feel silly as if we were making a big deal out of nothing. Trivializing is […]

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Reclaiming Your Creative Passion 2

Reclaiming Your Creative Passion 2

Written by on June 3, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 5 Comments

Reclaiming your passion when you’ve been battered — and covert abuse is battering — is a journey. There are twists and turns, rocky roads and slippery slopes. The way may be smooth before you hit a steep incline or suddenly drop off at the edge of a precipice. But you have to keep going. My […]

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Reclaiming Your Creative Passion 1

Reclaiming Your Creative Passion 1

Written by on April 29, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 9 Comments

How can we lose something that is such a part of our being? And yet we can, and when we place ourselves in situations that drain our very soul, we do. Our creative passion can help us to hold on to what is true within us. In the midst of usury and abuse, we can […]

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Loss of Creative Passion (Real Support vs Self-Serving)

Written by on April 13, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 21 Comments

Covert abusers can say the right things and they can be encouraging. That’s what’s so confusing. But when saying the right things and being encouraging is not followed through with action, then it’s just not real. To some people, saying something is as good as doing it. It doesn’t matter if they hadn’t actually done […]

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Loss of Creative Passion (Covert Attacks)

Written by on April 10, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 34 Comments

So what does it look like when your creative passion is covertly attacked? Covert abusers are cautious about being obvious with their intent, especially at first. They want to win your trust, or more accurately, lower your defenses. True to their covert nature, when they do start withdrawing their support, it will be indirectly. They […]

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Loss of Creative Passion (Deliberate Intention)

Written by on April 6, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 19 Comments

Passion isn’t just about sexuality. Sex is actually only a part of what passion is, and not even an essential part, albeit, pleasurable and important in the lives of many. Have you ever met a passionate person? You may know absolutely nothing about their sex life, but you can see they are filled with passion. […]

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Loss of Passion (Hyper-Sexuality)

Written by on March 3, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 5 Comments

There is another face to loss of passion. At first glance it appears exactly the opposite, but if they are opposites they are opposite sides of the same coin. Someone on Facebook, reading my previous post on losing one’s passion, pointed out that while exploitation could make one hypo sexual it could also make you […]

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Loss of Passion (Hypo-Sexuality)

Written by on February 23, 2012 in Tea and Conversation with 7 Comments

Far easier to recover from fatigue than to recover our passion, both sexual and creative, in an abusive relationship. It should be no surprise that loss of passion is connected to covert-abuse-induced fatigue. Covert abuse is so draining it doesn’t leave very much of you for anything else. But covert abuse, also, affects how you […]

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