On Valentine’s Day

Written by on February 14, 2012 in Conversations on the Healing Journey with 2 Comments

On Valentine’s Day I want to wish you love, and remind you to cherish your love. Don’t let anyone use that love against you. Because that’s what covert abusers do.

They look for someone strong enough to love, courageous enough to be vulnerable, someone who sees the best in others, especially the ones they love. They look for people of character, who have principles, who would honor the trust others place in them. They know such a person will expect the same of another, and if not everyone, then most certainly the one with whom they share their intimate thoughts and moments.

It’s like the scent of the prey to a jackal, the drop of blood in water to the shark.

Your love is for you to express in as many beautiful and unique ways that is right for you. It’s for you to explore, to use to open doors of communication, the exchanging of dreams and if they do not come true, to walk each in their own direction with honor.

It is not meant to be a tool in the hands of a manipulator. But too often it is.

And if so, there is no shame, though you may be riddled with it. The crime is not yours for being so trusting. And if you made decisions you should have known better, then within the love that is yours, that is you, lies forgiveness. Give yourself some, learn and become wise, even if just a little more.

On this Valentine’s Day, I wish you compassion. If you’re just realizing what you’ve gotten in to, or if you’ve been struggling with it for what seems a lifetime, then know that even though everyone thinks this day is for lovers and couples, it’s really for you.

Don’t feel like it’s not for you because you may not be in a relationship, not a real one, though to some you may appear to be. A day that is supposed to celebrate love must celebrate the human spirit and its capacity to love.

It must celebrate you.

So take this time to honor who you are, to give yourself a smile, to do something sweet for you. Because you truly are beautiful, and no matter where you are in your journey, or where you may think you are, you are most certainly one step closer to living the authentic life you so crave and deserve.

And remember, you are never more alone than when you are with someone who does not see you. Walk that empowered path to visibility. See yourself as you are. You may be surprised at what you see, to see what others who truly care about you see — beauty, grace, kindness, intelligence and love, all taking the unique form of you.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

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About the Author

About the Author: Demian Yumei, author, singer/songwriter and artist activist, using spoken, written word and original songs in her human rights activism. Demian is a traveler on the healing journey with a lifelong love affair with the creative process. .


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