Tag: covert attacks

Creating Your Reality Part 1 – Use and Misuse

Written by on March 7, 2013 in Conversations on the Healing Journey with 2 Comments

Do you believe you create your own reality? What does that mean…to create your own reality? To some it means choosing how you experience your reality, giving it its ultimate meaning, shaping it or making an impact within your reality. For others creating your reality goes beyond shaping or giving meaning or having impact. It […]

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How to Discern Covert Abuse Without Becoming Paranoid

Written by on October 15, 2012 in Conversations on the Healing Journey with 7 Comments

Before I write any more articles in the “Feigning Series” or analyze any more types of manipulation and covert abuse, I would like to address the question of how to protect our idealism, our positive outlook on life in a world where covert abuse exists. It’s necessary to be able to discern covert abuse, to […]

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Written by on June 14, 2012 in Conversations on the Healing Journey with 10 Comments

The aim of covert abuse is to manipulate, to control or harm another without getting caught. Manipulation is, by definition, difficult to spot. Some ways are easier to see than others, but it does require vigilance to be aware, and a challenge to maintain balance within ourselves. The greatest danger of being a target of […]

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Written by on June 13, 2012 in Conversations on the Healing Journey with 7 Comments

Covert abuse: the assaults, the pain…did I do something to deserve this? No. I could leave it at that and end this post, but I’ll delve into it a little further in case you’re not convinced. And if you’re a victim of covert abuse, chances are you aren’t. Covert abuse, with its systematic erosion of […]

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Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill? When we experience covert abuse, the very subtlety of it can make us feel embarrassed or even apologetic to bring it up. We — and others — may make us feel silly as if we were making a big deal out of nothing. Trivializing is […]

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Loss of Creative Passion (Covert Attacks)

Written by on April 10, 2012 in Conversations on the Healing Journey with 34 Comments

So what does it look like when your creative passion is covertly attacked? Covert abusers are cautious about being obvious with their intent, especially at first. They want to win your trust, or more accurately, lower your defenses. True to their covert nature, when they do start withdrawing their support, it will be indirectly. They […]

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