Tag: red flags


Written by on February 21, 2012 in The Healing Journey with 8 Comments

Red Flag: Fatigue Being with covertly abusive people is draining. Self-doubt and anxiety is draining. Tying yourself into a pretzel trying to rationalize other people’s behavior is draining. Fearing sudden reprisals or assaults is draining. Attempting to find coherency among contradictions is draining. Accepting excuses as facts over reality, dealing with lies are all draining. […]

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Loss of Discernment (part 2)

Written by on February 2, 2012 in The Healing Journey with 4 Comments

Part 2 Part 1 here If your eyes see that smirk on someone’s face, if you catch those darting glances, if your ears hear the sound of derisive laughter, if every time you approach a group of “friends” you’re confronted by their backs no matter where you stand, if your feet stumble at the hard […]

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Loss of Discernment (part 1)

Written by on February 1, 2012 in The Healing Journey with 3 Comments

Defining and discovering who you are, learning to trust yourself through the good decisions you make and trusting yourself to learn and grow from the bad ones are basic fundamental skills of living. They are critical to mental and emotional well-being. And they require discernment. Discernment is not self-righteous judgment. It’s not determining how much […]

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Written by on January 31, 2012 in The Healing Journey with 10 Comments

Is this really happening? This is often our initial response to covert abuse. The very covertness of covert abuse causes us to question our senses, our experiences and our reality. Doubt plagues us, at times paralyzing and rendering us incapable of responding in any meaningful way. We think we must be mistaken. Our friend, our […]

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Red Flags that Covert Abuse is Afoot

Written by on January 30, 2012 in The Healing Journey with 0 Comments

Since covert abuse is covert, it’s presence will not be obvious, at least not immediately. When covert abuse is the main abuse, no broken bones, bruised skin or black eyes will herald its arrival or stay. Covert abuse relies on its target’s unawareness or disbelief to enable it to continue. When covert abuse comes at […]

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